Beautiful people if you haven’t read part one (The Truth about Depression) I would recommend reading that prior to the below…
So our mind is polluted, how do we fix it? We need to treat our polluted mind like anything else that is polluted if we want to return it to its pure state. We need to remove the current pollutants and stop putting new pollutants in there, makes sense.
I think it’s important we understand how the cycle of experience works in our body if we are going to regain control of our mind. When we experience something, anything at all, a very specific chemical signature is released into our body, this is the blueprint for our memory of that experience and is stored. We call it emotion. This is an amazing process and provides us with a rich catalogue of remembered experiences and can become fertile ground for us to create new and better experiences based on the evolution of those feelings.
The problem arises when we have an experience which is in conflict to our egoic framework, it goes against our expectations of how the world should be, someone effectively has broken one of our rules. It could be something as small as looking at us the wrong way or bumping into us at the supermarket.
Because we think we are our identity or the psyche we feel me must defend it at all costs, so we do what the ego does best, we attack. We start analysing in our head
“why is he looking at me like that, who does he think he is? His type is always so disrespectful”… we could express our judgement of their failure to meet our expectations in a myriad of potential ways depending of how our egoic framework has been constructed. Maybe we get physical, maybe we feel even more insecure, maybe we feel judged… whatever our reaction is, it doesn’t really matter. The critical point here is because of our egoic opposition to the experience, because of our judgement of the experience, we actually prevent the biochemical aspect of the experience from completing its process, it is simply left hanging mid cycle and it is at that point it is repressed within us and forms a polluting toxin in your consciousness and a link then remains between our present moment awareness, your ever unfolding ‘now’ and that partially completed experience. More baggage baby.
This is incredibly important in our ability to free ourselves emotionally from the past and indeed it’s negative effect on our present and future. The implications of these repressed partially completed experiences stretch beyond the realms of what we will discuss here but I only hope we can all master this for so much rests upon it. Suffice to say that no greater importance could be placed on this for the evolution of our consciousness and the quality of our lives.
OK, so the key to getting rid of these existing pollutants is a technique called ‘letting go’, we need to allow that partially processed experience to be completed. In doing so you will break the connection which remains with it and you will allow it to gently rest in the past where it was always intended to remain.
How do we do this? It’s a cliché but we have to literally face those fears as they arise.
When a situation happens in our life that doesn’t meet our expectations, if it doesn’t fit within our rules, our fears will be stimulated, our identity is being questioned and an emotional response will start bubbling up in our body. I’m sure we all know exactly what that feels like. The amount of time we’ll have to get in-between the experience and our reaction will depend on how much of a threat we deem that particular experience to be to our ego.
Ideally we need to stop ourselves from reacting. What we need to do when that emotion begins to rise up is to allow it to rise up, we need to feel all of that feeling. You don’t have to get on the roller coaster of emotion, just observe it, say to yourself “oh look that’s an out of it feeling, not overly pleasant but it’s just a feeling and won’t kill me” then it will exhaust itself in a few moments and be gone. You just faced that fear. You owned it and by doing so completed the emotional circuit of that experience. Your link to it is then released and you are freed from it. If it’s a heavily reinforced connection and a similar feeling begins to rise up in the future on account of a similar experience simply repeat the process.
Every time you face a fear and allow it to play out and run its course you are removing a toxin from your consciousness and purifying your mind. Buddha said ‘Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die’ never were truer words spoken.
Much fertile ground for repressed emotions exist with people and relationships where we feel we have been wronged. Take stock of the relationships in your life where you have drank the poison Buddha speak of.
Oh how we love to be wronged, we can be significant if someone has wronged us, we hold the resentment in us as rightful title of victim and therefore we are in our mind superior to the other person and we have significance. That is the ultimate fuel for the starved egoic mind which thrives on comparison, competition, the need to be right and superior. That resentment and anger we keep poisons us daily. We have to let that shit go, release the people in our lives that we feel have wronged us and in doing so you complete those experiences and purify your own mind as the poison drains away. Lay your past to rest. Let it remain in its rightful place. Stain your present no more with its pain and suffering.
As you continue to ‘let go’ you will see great change in your life, with every emotional experience you own and complete, your bandwidth for creativity and joy will be opened, you will literally begin to rewire the neural connections in your brain, the way you see the world will change and so the world changes. Your mind will open to the joy and beauty that is everywhere.
If we continue to clean out our mental closet the most important and challenging undertaking in our life will become the overhaul of our egoic framework. This ensures that we don’t continue to pollute our mind with fear and impossible expectations…this is the key to our ultimate freedom.
We’ll take a look at that next…
Next: Letting it go